expectations....

the higher u aim, the harder u fall.....

does it mean that the higher u aspire, the more painful it is when u fail to reach your goal? or does it mean that the grander ur ambitions, the harder it is for u to reach them.

from the knocks i've had in life, i learned that expectations can be a very painful experince. when u fail to meet ur parents expectations, how painful it is to see the hope in their eyes fade away when they realise that their dreams will not materialise.

when someone else fails ur expectations, it is a gut-wrenching experience when the truth hits u. it feels almost as if someone pulled the carpet from beneath ur feet and u are left tumbling in the void that was once filled with ur expectations.

it can be dangerous when we expect more than the other party can give. for expectations is a dynamic see-saw, it's like giving and receiving.only when the other reciprocate will our expectations be fulfilled. and many times, we expect more than what the other is ready or able to give.

expecting too much places a tremendous strain on the relationship -may it be a employer/employee or a man/woman relationship. and when we expect too much, we are not being honest to ourselves. for deep-down, we know what the other is able to offer. but we ignore our intuition n demand, demand, demand, for we hope that there might be the smallest chance our demands will be fulfilled....

so, be honest to urself, n to others. for every demand, there is an expectation, n if u know u can't, why do u expect others to?